The Definition Of Quality Time

Family –October 2010 – Grace & Truth Magazine

The Definition Of Quality Time

“How can I get quality time with my little daughter each day?” the mother asked. A mother who was also a career woman advised: “Make sure you give her some one-on-one undivided attention each day. But don’t worry about how much time or when. Remember, she can't tell time yet.”

Another mother who was a full-time homemaker said: “I’ve found that the more time I’m available for my children, the greater the number of quality moments we have. And the quality of those moments is greater when the child chooses them. When I schedule them for my convenience, the children take part but the quality isn’t there. If it’s on my schedule, isn’t that selfish?”

In our busy world we often force our most important relationships into a few convenient moments. Then we try to feel good by referring to them as “quality time.” This might be all right if we are the only one involved. But in a relationship – especially with a child, spouse, friend, or one in need – the right time should be enjoyed by both.

Can you imagine the Lord rushing to the point with the two on the road to Emmaus, or with the woman at the well? Was not the quality of His relationship with Mary, Martha and Lazarus dependent upon the amount of time He gave them? Didn’t His relationship with the disciples develop because He was always available for them in their time of need?

Matthew 28:20 tells us the Lord’s definition of quality time: “Surely I am with you always.” He doesn’t keep office hours. He’s not just available at the end of the day. He never says He doesn’t have time for us. In fact, He’s always there for us. And when we come to Him, He gives us as much time as we desire. Won’t you make a commitment to put your new definition of quality time into practice with those who need it?

By Larry Ondrejack